A thank you to the ladies in my life on International Women's Day
Posted on 08 March 2019
As the world celebrates International Women’s Day I would like to thank ‘the ladies’ who all play vital roles in my life.
It wasn’t until my brothers got married that the subject of sisters-in-law ever came up, I guess why would it? Anyway, when it did it became quite apparent that not everyone gets on with theirs! I suddenly felt very lucky; Hels, Fi and Natty are not only great sisters-in-law but I would have chosen to be friends with them if the choice had been mine.
Helen is kind, generous and always the hostess with the mostest. Her home is your home as soon as you walk through the door. We hit it off immediately and have had many a day out with the kids and nights out alone over the years and I class her as one of my best friends.
Fi is the same, how lucky am I?! She welcomed me in to her home when I moved to London many moons ago and never treated me like Andy’s little sister. Fiona is the princess in our family and we all like to take the mickey but, jokes aside, she is kind, beautiful inside and out and I am very blessed to call her family.
Natty is my cousin’s wife but I class her as my sister-in-law. I also did a stint living with them in London (I am the family member that comes to visit and doesn’t leave!) I am grateful for their time and guidance during that time when I was trying to forge my own path.
Sara, (my cousin) is the sister I never had. There is a 13-year age gap but that never got in the way. When we were little she would look after us and play with us and when we were older, she would lead us astray introducing us to ‘the world’…. the world of Hooch! Ha! She is warm, compassionate, loyal and she loves with all her heart. Nothing is ever too much trouble and she is also a wonderful auntie to Huey.
Lastly and by no means least my mum, Janet. She is my rock and my confidante.
Moomin Troll (as she is affectionately known) is the kindest and most generous woman and I am very proud to call her mum. She is not only generous with her time, but she would give you the shirt off her back if needed. She has had some tough times throughout the years and had to deal with a lot, but she never let that get in the way of being our mum.
When we were younger mum took a break in her career as a teacher to be a full time stay at home mum. I don’t think it was ever really a discussion, I think she wanted to, but I also think there was an expectation there as well.
Being a career woman and juggling a family is hard but so is staying at home and raising the kids. When I was nine my Dad was diagnosed with MS which made life much harder for us all but mum’s load increased. She was now a carer of three children and a husband. Looking back, I don’t know how she did it, family was always her priority and she did everything she could to make sure we were happy and rounded.
She was and still is so hands on, she must have been exhausted! When I was born, she had three kids under the age of five and she managed to juggle us and the running of the house, it wasn’t really until I had Huey that I really appreciated what goes in to it.
She cooked every night, she baked and not from any of these premade packets; I struggle following a recipe, but they all seemed to be in her head, or she just knew what the quantities should be. She played with us and always managed to have an educational angle to what we were doing, this must have been the teacher in her (but it never felt like a lesson). If we wanted playdough, she would make it and in all the different colours, I loved helping and this is something I will do with Huey when he is a bit older. She sewed and not just a button back on but actually sewed and for a long time she made us clothes. We made dens, she was wicket keeper, shop keeper, she would play video games, play dress up; you gave her a hat and she wore it.
My hope is that I can be as good of a mum as she is and give Huey everything she gave to us and still gives to her five grandkids.
Thank you to all of you x